Does that title sound weird? It does to me because the number one person in my life is my dh. He is the one person I turn to first when all goes wrong- or right! He is the first I want to share my time with and all that entails. But even though he is my #1…he often comes in second.
I think that many will understand what I mean by that. He has to work and sometimes I have to work. We go about the day time apart, sometimes 6 days a week. And we have two kids that I homeschool (he supports me morally *wink*). So how do I make time for my husband?
With homeschooling, my days are spent like this:
- Get up at 6:30-ish, kiss hubby good bye.
- Make coffee –that is a must.
- Check emails, facebook, work on posts for this blog
- Wake kids up
- Get the kids going on school
- Work and/or work on things I’ve committed myself to –such as book or product reviews, contributing educational materials for homeschoolers, looking for new/different/recent things pertaining to homeschooling
- Do more with the kids –school and/or outdoor stuff, shopping, etc.
So that is how my day generally goes (with more details and variations than I can even think of at the moment). But this isn’t about that. When my hubby comes home around 6:30- 7:00 pm, I am there to greet him at the door with a hug and a kiss. He is the only one I can see right then.
It doesn’t matter how my day has been; I give a smile –willingly and without hesitation. Even if I am feeling poorly, he gets a hug, smile and a kiss. It helps me show him that he is my #1 –even if it feels to both of us that he has to come in second sometimes.
Another way I make time for him is to make sure that the evenings are spent either as a family or just the two of us. I have all day with my children –only a few hours are spent with just my husband. I try very hard to get all of my computer activities done before he gets home and limit it on the weekends.
And finally a way that I make ‘time’ for him is to make a meal that he enjoys. It makes me focus on him and if I tell him beforehand (which I don’t always do –some surprises are good) he knows I am thinking of him; it makes him feel special.
He likes to spend time in the garage tinkering and working on his ‘toys’ (cars, bikes, etc) and sometimes gets lost in it. I make the effort to go to him, just to be there. Because I have all day at home, I can do the things I want to do almost whenever but I understand that he has a limited hours in the week when he can do the things he enjoys. Spending time with him wherever he is, is a way I make time for him.
How do you make time for your spouse?